Adoptee Voices. Adoptee Rights.

Category: Lifelong Impact

Adoptee Voices 2023

Post author By Adoptee
Post date November 18, 2023

I had a ‘good’ adoption but I hate adoption. I hate the sense of not belonging of always being outside/other. I resent the way non adoptees usually view adoption. I wish that I’d had support from someone with insight to work through my issues instead of finding the primal wound in my forties and realising that no not everybody feels or thinks that way about things. It totally screws with your head and relationships, definitely your relationships!

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Adoption, Brian, and Me

Post author By Adoptee
Post date October 18, 2023

Male adoptees living in the UK, and perhaps living with mental health issues, often put a brave face on things to stay strong and not show the cracks in our minds on the outside. We drink with the lads, we put up shelves, we are the strong ones, and we are the ones people lean on for support, we are not about to start asking for support ourselves for god’s sake, right?!

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Long Lost Family: an adoptee’s view

Post author By Adoptee
Post date August 22, 2023

But there is a price for this help. Always a price. And that price is having your life put on show, having your complex, raw, unprocessed emotions filmed, Davina leaning in.

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A match made in hell for adoptees?

Post author By Debbie
Post date August 15, 2023

Let’s remember that we were children but children grow up into adults and those adults want answers as to who they are and where they came from. Coram IAC owes it to us and our next generation. We are not ornaments or souvenirs, we are people with a past history and an origin story that belongs to us.

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Adoption: the case for an apology

Post author By Vik
Post date June 2, 2023

We need the apology, we need the recognition, we need the acknowledgment that what was done to us was so wrong and we need help: we need help to heal, we need help to get our voices heard and we need the government to take accountability and to recognise the role they played

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You want me to be grateful for being a transracial adoptee?

Post author By Anon
Post date March 15, 2023

Recently Colin Kaepernick has spoken about his experiences growing up as an adoptee of colour. The thing which distinguishes his and so many other adoptions is that his adopters are white. The sad fact is that there are a disproportionate number of children of colour in the system and available for adoption. Take a look […]

Lifelong Impact Mental health

Adoptees and Therapy

Post author By Anon
Post date March 14, 2023

What cannot be talked about cannot be put to rest. And if it is not, the wounds will fester from generation to generation. –Bruno Bettleheim Bettleheim could easily be talking about adoptees – I have asked myself these questions many times, with good reason: I am an adoptee and a therapist. It is every adoptee’s […]

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The Importance of Genetic Mirroring

Post author By Anon
Post date February 10, 2023

Genetic mirroring is being able to see yourself in the family that surrounds you because of your shared DNA, something adoptees are denied

Adoption Health Lifelong Impact Mental health Personal reflection

The Harsh Reality of Living Without any Medical History

Post author By Liz
Post date February 10, 2023

I am an adoptee born in 1974 and adopted 8 weeks later. I speak from lived experience of inheriting a genetic condition, Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS) from my first mother but only discovering this in my 40s. I’m 49. When I look back at my life up to now, I can pinpoint times that I […]

Tags Genetic Conditions, Genetic Testing, Medical Records

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Why Support for Adult Adoptees Must Be Adoptee-led

Post author By Adoptee
Post date February 10, 2023

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Support for adult adoptees is in short supply, and we are working hard to campaign for better access to counselling. There is often a lack of understanding, even an unwillingness to admit, the struggles adult adoptees face. We look at the conflicts of interest when adoption charities provide support to adult adoptees